Adoption Competent Therapy : Kate Murphy Therapy
I can offer you a safe space to process the experience of being adopted. I will never say, "Well, but you had a great family, right?"
therapy for adopted people, therapy for adoptees, adoption trauma, adult adoptee support, self-discovery, adoption, search and reunion, adoptee, birthparent, Atlanta, Fulton County, Kate Murphy
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Adoption Competent Therapy

What was Adoption like for You? 


The adoption experience is unique for each person who was adopted whether at birth or later. Understanding the impact of adoption is challenging and often overlooked.

You may have grown up hearing:

  • You were a gift to us.
  • You were chosen.
  • Have you found your “real” family?
  • It was God’s will.
  • Your mother “gave you up” out of love.


While these comments are well meaning, they’re not helpful. The common narrative in society is that adoption is positive. It’s the best outcome for an unplanned pregnancy and to help a childless couple build a family. This narrative leaves out the person who was adopted’s voice. I was adopted at birth and I find this problematic. Everyone’s voice counts.


People who were adopted may feel: 


  • a sense of loss; grief
  • a lack of focus
  • a general sense of dissatisfaction
  • like an outsider
  • not real
  • not good enough
  • unlovable
  • genealogical bewilderment


The reason for these feelings is due to the fact that relinquishment – at birth or later – is traumatic. It is an attachment wound that has a long-term impact on an adopted person’s life.


Search and Reunion


You may be struggling with if you should search for first/birth family members. Both desire and fear are normal. Fear of the unknown, fear of hurting parents, and fear of rejection. Remember, nobody starts a book at chapter 2. It’s perfectly reasonable to be curious about the 1st chapter of your life.


If you’re in reunion you may be dealing with some unexpected feelings and behavior.

Such as:

  • anger
  • grief
  • rejection
  • moodiness
  • attraction
  • disappointment
  • social anxiety


I can help you navigate the difficult landscape of adoptee land. Holding space for you when things are painful and hard to understand. People who were adopted are prone to worry about the needs of others above our own. Therapy is a place that is just for you.


Call or email me to set up a 30-minute consultation or to schedule a first full appointment. Additionally, I’m happy to discuss therapy, support groups in the area, search angels, or refer to other adoption competent therapists if you’re not in my area.


Blog topics on adoption.


*I work with individuals aged 18 and up.

Search & Reunion

Books about Adoption:


The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child, by Nancy Newton Verrier


Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self, by David Brodzinsky


You Don’t Look Adopted, by Anne Heffron


All You Can Ever Know, by Nicole Chung


Finding Family: My Search for Roots and Secrets in My DNA, by Richard Hill


Adoptionland: From Orphans to Activists, by Janine Myung Ja and Vance Twins


The Girls Who Went Away: The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades Before Roe v. Wade, by Ann Fessler


American Baby: A Mother, a Child, and the Shadow History of Adoption, by Gabrielle Glaser


Podcasts by Adult Adoptees: 


Adoptees On, podcast by Haley Radke


Born in June Raised in April, podcast by April Dinwoodie


Who am I Really?, podcast by Damon Davis


Pulled by the Root, podcast by Heidi Marble




Experience Courage by Janet Nordine, LMFT


Anne Heffron by Anne Heffron – writer & adoptee


Dear Adoption,  adoptee voices & resources


Adoptees Rights Law, legal info including a state-by-state guide regarding original birth certificates


Concerned United Birth Parents, support for all family members separated by adoption


Individual Session Fee:

$175 an hour

Will provide info for Out of Network filing.

“They say that life is a mystery. And I just wanna know my history.”

Darryl McDaniels (Adoptee otherwise known as DMC)

“They say that life is a mystery. And I just wanna know my history.”

Darryl McDaniels (Adoptee otherwise known as DMC)