Kate Murphy Therapy | Adult Adoptees
As an adoptee myself, I can offer you a safe space to process the experience of being adopted. I will never say, "Well, but you had a great family, right?"
adult adoptee support, self-discovery, adoption, search and reunion, adoptee, birthparent, Atlanta, Fulton County, Norcross, Gwinnett County, Group Therapy, Support Group
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Adult Adoptee Issues

The adoption experience for each adopted person is unique. Paying attention to the impact of adoption is often ignored or confusing for adopted people because it is  largely ignored by our families and society. Societal and adoptive family messages are typically that adoption is positive; the best outcome of an unplanned pregnancy and for a couple who desire a child. This message completely misses the fact that adoption represents loss on many different levels.


You may be in touch with some or all of the following:

  • a sense of loss
  • a feeling of not being grounded
  • a lack of focus in their lives
  • a general sense of dissatisfaction
  • a feeling of never quite belonging or being good enough
  • a feeling of being incomplete
  • a sense of genealogical bewilderment


You may struggle with the question of whether you have a right to search for a birth family member. Concern that you will hurt adoptive and birth parents is often a primary barrier to launching a search. Working with a therapist during this time can help ensure that you have a safe space to process your feelings and needs. As adoptees, we are often programmed to worry about the needs of others above our own.


Adoption has impacted your life in ways that you may or may not have connected yet. Additionally, search and reunion is a normal desire. If you choose that route, the possibility of healing is an important outcome. Think about it, who starts a book at chapter 2? You deserve to be curious about your chapter 1 in whatever way that manifests for you.



The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child, by Nancy Newton Verrier


Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self, by David Brodzinsky


You Don’t Look Adopted, by Anne Heffron


Finding Family: My Search for Roots and Secrets in My DNA, by Richard Hill


Adoptionland: From Orphans to Activists, by Janine Myung Ja and Vance Twins


The Girls Who Went Away: The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades Before Roe v. Wade, by Ann Fessler

Adoptees On, podcast by Haley Radke


Born in June Raised in April, podcast by April Dinwoodie


“Like” my Facebook page specific to the adoption experience.



“They say that life is a mystery.  And I just wanna know my history.”

-Darryl McDaniels (Adoptee otherwise known as DMC)