Kate Murphy Therapy | Adult Adoptees
As an adoptee myself, I can offer you a safe space to process the experience of being adopted. I will never say, "Well, but you had a great family, right?"
adult adoptee support, self-discovery, adoption, search and reunion, adoptee, birthparent, Atlanta, Fulton County, Norcross, Gwinnett County, Group Therapy, Support Group
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Adult Adoptee Issues

The adoption experience for each adopted person is unique.

 

Do you have a sense that a piece is missing from your personal puzzle that causes a gap you can’t quite explain?

 

The impact of adoption is largely ignored in our society. Societal and adoptive family messages are typically that adoption is positive; the best outcome of an unplanned pregnancy and for a couple who desire a child. This message ignores the fact that adoption represents loss for both the adoptee and the birth family.

 

You may be in touch with some or all of the following:

  • a sense of loss
  • a feeling of not being grounded
  • a lack of focus in their lives
  • a general sense of dissatisfaction
  • a feeling of never quite belonging or being good enough
  • a feeling of being incomplete
  • a sense of genealogical bewilderment

 

You may struggle with the question of whether you have a right to search for a birth family member. Concern that you will hurt adoptive and birth parents is often a primary barrier to launching a search. Working with a therapist during this time can help ensure that you have a safe space to process your feelings and needs. As adoptees, we are often programmed to worry about the needs of others above our own.

 

Adoption has impacted your life in ways that you may or may not have connected yet. Additionally, search and reunion is a normal desire. If you choose that route, the possibility of healing is an important outcome. Think about it, who starts a book at chapter 2? You deserve to be curious about your chapter 1 in whatever way that manifests for you.

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Resources:

The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child, by Nancy Newton Verrier

 

Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self, by David Brodzinsky

 

You Don’t Look Adopted, by Anne Heffron

 

Finding Family: My Search for Roots and Secrets in My DNA, by Richard Hill

 

Adoptionland: From Orphans to Activists, by Janine Myung Ja and Vance Twins

 

The Girls Who Went Away: The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades Before Roe v. Wade, by Ann Fessler

Adoptees On, podcast by Haley Radke

 

Born in June Raised in April, podcast by April Dinwoodie

 

“Like” my Facebook page specific to the adoption experience.

 

 

“They say that life is a mystery.  And I just wanna know my history.”

-Darryl McDaniels (Adoptee otherwise known as DMC)