Adult Adoptee Support : Kate Murphy Therapy
As an adoptee myself, I can offer you a safe space to process the experience of being adopted. I will never say, "Well, but you had a great family, right?"
adult adoptee support, self-discovery, adoption, search and reunion, adoptee, birthparent, Atlanta, Fulton County, Norcross, Gwinnett County, Group Therapy, Support Group
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Adult Adoptee Support

What was Adoption like for You? 


The adoption experience is unique for each adopted person. Awareness about the impact adoption has had on you is hard because it is often ignored by family and loved ones. Family may say things like, “You were a gift to us” or “You were chosen.”


If questions arise outside of the family it may sound like, “Have you found your ‘real’ family?” Negative comments on adoption might have elicited comments like, “But your adoptive family loved you. It was probably better that you were adopted, right?”


None of this is helpful. The narrative in society is generally that adoption is positive. The best outcome for an unplanned pregnancy and to help a childless couple build a family. This narrative leaves out the adoptee.


Adult Adoptees May Feel: 


  • a sense of loss
  • not being grounded
  • a lack of focus in their lives
  • a general sense of dissatisfaction
  • like an outsider
  • not good enough
  • a sense of genealogical bewilderment


You may be struggling with if you should search for birth family members. There is a desire, however, there is also fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of hurting adoptive and birth parents. It’s a lot to handle alone.


Know that a desire to search for your roots is a normal life stage for adoptees. You may have searched and feel unsure about what to do next. You may be in reunion and are experiencing confusion, anger, and grief that is a surprise.


An adoption competent therapist can help you navigate this difficult landscape. Holding space for you when things are painful and hard to understand. As adoptees, we are often prone to worry about the needs of others above our own. Therapy is a place that is just for you.


Who starts a book at chapter 2? You deserve to be curious about your first chapter in whatever way that manifests for you.


Call or email me to set up a phone consultation, 30-minute consultation in person, or to schedule an appointment. Both consultation options are free of charge. I work with individuals aged 18 and up.


Books about Adoption:


The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child, by Nancy Newton Verrier


Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self, by David Brodzinsky


You Don’t Look Adopted, by Anne Heffron


All You Can Ever Know, by Nicole Chung


Finding Family: My Search for Roots and Secrets in My DNA, by Richard Hill


Adoptionland: From Orphans to Activists, by Janine Myung Ja and Vance Twins


The Girls Who Went Away: The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades Before Roe v. Wade, by Ann Fessler


Podcasts by Adult Adoptees: 


Adoptees On, podcast by Haley Radke


Born in June Raised in April, podcast by April Dinwoodie


Who am I Really?, podcast by Damon Davis

Ready to explore therapy? Schedule a free 30-minute consultation.


Individual Session Fee:

$120 an hour

Will provide info for Out of Network filing.

“They say that life is a mystery. And I just wanna know my history.”

Darryl McDaniels (Adoptee otherwise known as DMC)